I Never Knew My Mother

This is National Adoption Week, as an adopted person it means something to me. I was adopted as a baby by what would be considered today as an old couple. I have never tried to find my birth parents for several reasons. I had quite a strict upbringing and those of you who know me well may find some of the following revelations amusing. There was no alcohol allowed in the house and it was Bible class on Saturday mornings and then Sunday School and evening service at the Baptist Chapel. Yes I have made up for lost time!!

My adopted Father was a gentle quiet man who had survived the first world war. He hardly ever spoke about it. My adopted Mother was very much in control of the house. Very strict about many things. Made me into a liar sometimes when I wanted to stay with friends. I was never allowed to have anyone to stay. They did the best they could in the only way they knew how.

There was a time when I considered finding my birth parents, but because of my job I decided against it. Did not want my life story dragged through the press. I have been on the register of adopted children for a very long time and no one has tried to find me.

I used to do a lot of performance poetry and the one I wrote about adoption was requested on Poetry Please on Radio 4. They asked me to record it and it was ultimately used on the CD that the BBC released to celebrate the 25th Anniversary of Poetry Please.

I will leave you with the poem. Know that I have no regrets, my back ground made me strong and I live a very happy life. I have no relatives at all but am richly blessed with wonderful loving friends. Not to mention you lovely people on Twitter who make me laugh so much and cry with joy when you do those kind amazing things you do. I may not have relatives but as that wonderful boy  Harry Moseley used to say I love my Twitfam. XXX

P.S.

If you want to know more about how you can give a home and a wonderful love filled life to a child please go to http://www.nationaladoptionweek.org.uk/

__________________________

Adoption

I discovered your name

I found it written in real ink

on a paper as old as me

permanently creased by time

and the need for secrecy.

My birthright.

I knew of you from nursery stories

but only in the abstract

with Cinderella and Red Riding Hood.

What they thought I needed to know

just enough for my own good.

Occasionally I would weave a

fantasy of imagined beginnings

in rebellion to my actual situation.

But if the truth be told

I had no real need of you.

We have one day in common

do you think of me then?

As a burning loss or a skeleton

which history promised would

remain securely locked in a past life.

Should I search for you

while there is still time?

Perhaps you are no longer alive

should I have felt your passing?

Have I you to thank for my grey hair

or was it him whose name wasn't written there?

Is there any history of breast cancer?

The medical questionnaire laid the truth bare.

I do not know.

Did you ever hold me to your breast.

or did THEY think it best

you should have no sight of me?

Barbaric days, thank God they're gone

when neighbour's condemnations

and unreal expectations

were considered more important

than the lives they tore apart.

I'm giving you the benefit of the doubt.

I don't think you had a choice

a single pregnant women had no voice

in those hypocritical times

when men were free

and free women were sluts,

second hand goods

with a baby badge of shape.

I don't know if we'll ever meet

for now it is enough I know your name.

Wincey Willis

__________________________

@winceywillis1

On Loving Harry Moseley

Tomorrow we gather to celebrate the life of the most remarkable boy I have ever met. I am proud to have been his friend and will always be in awe of him and his amazing family.

The best thing that has happened to me on Twitter was meeting Harry, he invited me to go to London and be part of his official linking ceremony with Cancer Research UK, a privilege I will never forget. His humour was always in the forefront and that day was no exception. Ben Shepherd was master of ceremonies for the event and remarked to Harry how lovely Georgie looked. Harry immediately whipped off his glasses and handed them to Ben saying “You need to go to Spec Savers”.

Over many months I met Harry in different places where he was selling his bracelets always with his Mum and Gran there for support. Constantly cheerful and inspirational to all who were lucky enough to meet him. To hear him deliver a speech was listening to a master class. He enthralled and informed his audience with humour but also poignant tales and hard facts. Whether it was an audience of city gents or young people whoever they were they never failed to respond.

With your magnificent support, especially that of Tanya who told me about the competition and agreed that if I won she’d donate her share, the £10000 for Harry’s charity was won. A tangible example of your love and respect for him.

Tomorrow Twitter will honour him as only you can, with tweets and balloons and cyber love. I know Harry would be so chuffed and if he could, would find a way to use it to raise funds. This is the one other thing you can do today or tomorrow. Visit www.helpharryhelpothers.com Thank you.